Living with Intention
Have you ever seen a roundabout? Specifically the European roundabout? It’s the intersection that forces drivers to yield to the traffic already circling, and then for the driver to do a hop out of the circle. Kind of like double Dutch jump rope but with cars.
At the age of 23, one of my closest friends and I ended up on a road trip in Spain and Portugal. Long story short, we rented a car that was a stick shift and neither one of us knew how to drive it. And although we weren’t experienced with this type of car, driving on the autobahn at 140 kilos didn’t intimidate us. The roundabouts did.
The thing about roundabouts is that upon entering you have to adjust to the speed of the other cars, get over to where you need to exit, and hop on out of the circle. Otherwise, you could be stuck literally driving in circles. Headed in no direction. I’m sure you can imagine how many times that happened to us.
And this, my friends, is what I did when I was 23 in Europe, and then how I lived my life for the next 10 years.
I wasn’t quite sure what I wanted to do, why I wanted to do it, or if it was “God’s will” for my life. So instead of adjusting my speed or making the decision to exit and go in one direction, I just kept circling.
I took spiritual gifts and personality tests, prayed, analyzed, took the newest job or moved to a new place and then prayed and analyzed some more. I couldn’t decide.
I didn’t know my own worth, what brought me joy, or what I was meant to do. Ironically, my new found Christian faith was the crutch I clung to as I told myself and others that I was just looking for God’s will in my life.
In reality, I didn’t have a vision for my life. I didn’t know my design, my creator, or my worth. I blamed being single or life circumstances. I was letting life happen to me instead of happening to life.
I kept wandering and all the while wondering why God was letting me.
And then I heard someone on the radio say – stop living like you’re a victim. I read a quote about being the heroine of your own life. Someone else said that it’s never too late to become the person you want to be. And although none of these things are specifically Christian based quotes, they spoke to my heart and mind.
Why am I living life re-actively instead of proactively?
God has a plan for my life and yours– a plan for good and not for harm, to give us a future and a hope, as He promises in Jeremiah 29. We don’t know the details of the plan, but we know it’s for our best.
The people of Babylon knew that God would end their captivity, and instead of simply waiting on the plan to happen, God told them to work towards peace and prosperity in the meantime. They needed to live with intention as they waited for God’s next step and as part of God’s next step.
As I examined Proverbs 31, I saw that this woman lived with intention each day. She made clothes before winter came. She used her money to plant a vineyard that made her more money. She knew her worth, her creator, and her design.
She didn’t know she would end up famous. She made decisions based on where she wanted to be and as part of God’s plan for her life.
Unsuccessful people make decisions based on where they are. Successful people make decisions based on where they want to be. Proverbs 31 woman was a successful woman.
Do you know your worth? You are worth rescuing. You are worth more than wandering. You are worthy of success in every way imaginable.
What is it that comes to mind when you think of becoming more intentional? For me, I needed to be more intentional with my career choices. Where did I want to be in 10 years? What was I doing to get there? I began reading a book to help me figure that out. Finding Your North Star and Soul Detox are two books that helped me out of the circle.
Yours could be a relationship. Dating? Are you intentionally spending time with men that you would want to be married to? Or are you just filling up time?
Finances? Are you intentionally paying off debt each month or are you living paycheck to paycheck? Where do you want to be? Then make decisions based off that place.
You have been given this amazing gift called life and He wants you to embrace it for all of its worth – and you can’t do that if you are wandering.
Friends, you are called to live with intention. Seek out your design, know your creator, and value your worth!
Single mom, working outside the home mom, stay-at-home mom, single in your 20’s, single in your 40’s…you are in God’s plan for your life, and it is good. Live like it.